CHAPTER 1 SELF-KNOWLEDGE

I would like to reflect on the Key step by step, together with you.
I start with a fundamental aspect, the first two lines:

LIFE IS ABOUT SELF-KNOWLEDGE
UNCOVERING WHAT YOU REALLY ARE

This includes so much.
Most people do not know what I am talking about. What I am now that is what I am this cannot change. Oh yeah, I’ve learned in school, I have received some education from my parents. That is what I am.

No, mostly then you have lost yourself, who you really are.
Certainly it is true that there are many people who have never been in touch with who they really are. They have other life-lessons to learn.

That is ok. But at some point there will come oppertunities to apply the Key.
Then you can start to discover who you really are.

BIRTH

The Key could be used from birth.
What is inherited when a child is born?
Almost always the experiences of the parents, what the parents inherited. What they learned from their parents. What they inherited from the culture in which they lived and live.
Longer time ago this was much more influenced by religion.
No room to discover who you really are.

Almost always the parents do not know themselves.
Almost always there are vicious circles. This is how it is because this is what is taught to me.
But often what is taught is distorted.

These are all clichés. But clichés are many times truth.
“I’ve never gotten the chance to do what I wanted so I give my children the oppertunity the education to do it”.
Many times frustrations, traumas are passed on.

But almost always unconsciously, not knowing any better.
There is no other way to do it, this is life.
This is because real Consciousness is not integrated in the world. There are very few examples where there is room for this. So everything goes on as it is.

It is not about self-knowledge in the world, within the society, it is about completely different things.
Very different things are given. Much more in the sense of: You must be like this, don’t show to much who you really are, what you really feel, be normal. Be like everybody else.

And what if everybody is crazy.
When everybody is crazy this doesn’t become visible.

CRAZY

Actually I see the world as a little bit crazy. But this doesn’t show, because everyone is crazy. Because it is told, how it is now, where life revolves around now, this is it, this is not crazy. So everyone is doing his best to be like that.

But all this is totally relative and no one has that in mind. Because an alternative is barely visible.
Wherever it is a bit visible, they say: “They are crazy, you should not take them too seriously. Those are in the clouds boasting about spirituality and self-discovery. Maybe a nice hobby, but then back to the order of the day.

In such a world a child is born.

NEWBORN

There it is a new citizen of the earth. Whether it is a clean slate with which the child is born, the opinions are divided. But anyway, the baby was initially very pure and very open and very vulnerable. It is said that the first five years of a child determine the rest of its life.

And what is given to this child?
Of course, it will be coddled. “Oooh sweet child, he can already say mom, dad, what a sweetheart. He looks exactly like his father, mother, his grandfather”.
In a reasonable harmonious family, the child is completely pampered.

But even then, everything has a big influence. The child can’t talk the first years, but feels a lot, sees a lot, although it cannot analyse yet what all this is. It feels the energy in the air, feels the unspoken things.
Therefore, there can be a lot of confusion, dependency.

And what do we give that child in his early life so short on this earth?

PROGRAMS

Very soon we give our subconscious programs. Or programs that we use from what we have read in books on how to raise a child, what is important, what the child needs.

Partially nothing is wrong with that. But the most important thing a child needs is pure, honest, genuine attention. That pure real attention can only be given if the first lines of the Key are applied. If parents really know themselves, that they discovered who they really are, then they will truly know about what the child needs, what is going on inside the child.

But when these lines do not yet receive attention, when they can’t play an role, then very quickly the programs start running. Then this should be done and then that, because it is in the book.

The voice of the past is delivered. The voice of the culture, of religion. The voice of the parents.
And the child, so young, so fragile, so dependent, adapts very quickly, to the codes in the program and looses its innocence.

LOSING INNOCENCE

Talking about programs. Long ago I saw on TV 7-year old children interviewed about life, how they see life.
What was shocking that the pure child was completely gone. You heard the parents through the child, what the parents think of the world, what they believed in, their religion, their culture.
The uniqueness, the inner connection, the pure knowledge of the child was totally gone.

WIll it be different now?

Often I look at children and their parents when they are together. Antd then I look at the child full of life, full of energy, full of childlike spontaneity, full of imagination. Everything new, everything a discovery, nothing is boring; life a great adventure.

And then I look at their dad, their mom, and all purity is gone. Everything fixed in habits, a character wherein you need to do, be this, this is appropriate, this is the culture, this is what is right.

Eyes closed for what is around them not being in the moment, caught by mindgames. No time to really discover, really see, feel what is. Everything becomes dull, boring, grey. Full of worry about everything, locked behind a wall putting up a fake smile, safe behind a mask. Not even knowing anymore that there is a wall a mask.

The child is gone. The potency of that what was extinguished untapped.
And then I wonder what goes wrong?

A CHILD MYSELF

I am thankful that I never really lost the child inside. Only I was a very insecure child, teenager.
Now I am often more childlike then a real child and can endlessly enjoy everything. The clouds, nature, everything around me, every second new and full of wonder.

What I often did is take a child on a kind of fantasytrip.
I take a doll and give the child also a doll and then we go on a trip. Everything we encountter I give a voice, everything can talk, all comes to life.
Then I use all kinds of voices to express what is all around, everything gets a voice, trees, animals, flowers the stones, everything. So we went on endless adventures awakened in the moment.

But the child grew older, other things became more important and the interest to make another trip disappears.

So much that life contains so soon is locked up, closed. It is time to grow up, no time to be childish. And soon the child goes to school, because much has to be learned. Only that is important. So all what is inside all the imagination and wonder is gone.

SCHOOL

Knowledge has a very important place in society.
A child goes to school, must learn. But the real living Knowledge, what lives inside the child is soon lost. No more playing just for playing and so much is learned in this playful state.
Nose in the books. Imagination disappears.

Why?
Why are we so fixated on learning?
What knowledge is really crucial?
Okay, reading, writing, and then?

When I look at my time at school, what have I remembered?
What did it give me now, in this life? What can I use now?
A basic arithmetic is still useful. But for the rest….
History, geography, biology, chemistry, mathematics, physics.
WIth mathematics, physics, I just didn’t understand. I was happy I could drop it soon.

Is that not already a very important aspect to keep in mind. Not everyone is a keen student, can easily store intellectual knowledge.
But he, she, has different talents.
Why should we all be the same?

Again, all these subjects I had at school, it gave me nothing for life.
And years and years I had to slog for it. Because yes, that diploma mus be earned and you had to choose a package for that.
But my real interest, my talents, my abilities were not in the curriculum.
The society, the culture choose for me what was important.
And this is still the case.

But is this all not very relative?
What is really important?
Apart from reading, writing and basic arithmetic.
Ok that can be used. Although not that much is written anymore, it has become all digital. Facebook, email, Instagram etc.

That is ok, that is functional, we can communicate.
But is it really important that we know where Boston and Maastricht are?
You just can Google it, or ask AI.
And history. What is history? And have we really learned from history?

Mathematics, chemistry, physics. In didn’t understand a thing. And I am not the only one. Why must we all learn the same, torture people with this who have no feeling for this?
That is a certain kind of person who understand this very easily but for others this world stays closed.

CHOOSE

Now children need to choose very quickly what they want and how they want to continue.
Too early. That choice should be delayed much longer. That there really takes place a research finding out what talents lie within the child, what the child really likes to do. What makes the child happy, what makes it feel alive.

Keeping in touch with the child, what the child shows and determining everything for the child, what the child should learn what would be important for the child.

In essence, we are unique beings with unique qualities and capabilities. But in the current structure of the society we all must be the same.

INTELLECTUAL KNOWLEDGE

There is so much more than intellectual knowledge.
And if for someone has become clear, this is what I want to do. I want to become a doctor or a teacher or an engineer. That then is offered what is needed.
Then may be of importance, biology or mathematics and physics.
But that it really arises from the inside of a child.

That a child can keep in touch with who he/she really is, and not get cluttered by knowledge about the world, of anything about what should be, full of intellectual knowledge of what other people think they know.
Then the child loses the connection to what he or she really Knows inside, in his of her heart.

It is so important to keep in touch with who you really are. That you keep in touch with your Heart, with your Being. That the child is stimulated with what gives joy and inspiration. That it is allowed to stay connected with who he/she really is, what feels good for him/her.

RESPECT

That a child, as soon as it can talk, that really is listened and that there is contact on a equal level. Not telling what is, but listen to the child, what is inside the child.

You can give boundaries if needed, a child needs boundaries, but in respect. Not from fear or feeling of superiority, but just where boundaries are needed.

As a parent or teacher, you can share your knowledge, provide knowledge. But not forced, that it is the only way, but as an investigation, a discovery together. An open heart for what really lives inside the child, what the child knows, what the child experiences, what the child sees.
This should be stimulated, so that the child stays close to his of herself.

At the moment a child loses the inner connection because of what school provides, tells what is, and the culture. Look at your own schoolexperience. What was shown, what did you have to learn? Did you really need this?

And later when the child shows from within a certain talent, direction, what it really likes to do, then the education what is needed for this can be given.
But does a child at the age of 4/5 need to be stuffed with dead knowledge?
This way the true Knowledge is lost, the true living inner Connection. A Connection with all and everybody, everything. True inspiration from within, a friend, guidance.

If it would stay connected with all this, how wonderful this would be.
Life would be much more spontaneous, meaningful, more open, like a dance.
Then when the child grows up and becomes an adult it would be original pure, a true human being.

BULLYING

A very unfortunate and urgent issue is bullying.

Why is a child bullied?
Is this not because we all have to live up, conscious or unconsious to a certain standard?
We all must look the same, be the same. And somebody who can’t live up to this standard becomes an outsider. He or she doesn’t fit and is bullied, is cast out. Especially if this person is very insecure inside.

Why isn’t is signalled when somebody is bullied?
Why is it not reported at school.
Because the teachers are also brainwashed by the same standards, consciously or unconsciously.

We are not allowed to be weak, sensitive, we must look the same, follow the codes.
Being different, being sensitive gets no value, no understanding. This way the child feels even more vulnerable, and from this vulnerability gets bullied. And so everything becomes a vicious circle.

Why not break that circle?
Why not give room for being different, room for sensitivity for vulnerability for feelings.
Why must everybody be the same.

That it is promoted by the teachers that it is good to be different, to be sensitive, that it can be fun to look different. Not what fashion prescribes what is cool. That it is cool to be true to yourself and to what makes you feel good.

I am sure bullying will become much less, and when it happens it would be detected earlier. And it would’nt be allowed by bystanders and/or teachers.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE

So much is taught at school, a child must learn so much from such a tender age. Completely full with knowledge about anything and everything. Also the teachers had to learn a lot, study, year after year.
But this ignores the most important thing, and that is self-Knowledge.

Yes self-Knowledge, who are we?
Who are we really?
Who are you?
That discovery, or even better, keeping in touch with who we really are should be the main purpose, training.
This all through life.

If we are programmed for many years, affected by the society, the culture, by all that comes on our path, then how can we truly see each other? Really see the other person if we don not even know who we are ourselves.

From there we put eachother in boxes, but often what we say about others tells more about ourselves than others. We do not see eachother we see ourselves.